So thatβs it, Mothering Sunday is over for another year. I had a wonderful time and was thoroughly spoilt with a lie in, lunch out and aΒ whole day off from the usual drudgery. I donβt think the same can be said for Misery Guts though, who hot footed it off to work with unusual speedΒ as soon asΒ the weekend was over.
Judging by some of the things IΒ saw and heardΒ over the course ofΒ theΒ dayΒ I donβt thinkΒ Misery Guts isΒ the only one whoβs glad itβs all over, either. Dads desperate to get it right, over excited kids β itβs a recipe for disaster when you think about it.
So Iβve compiled a list of 5 reasons Motherβs Day is a bad idea:
1. It raises expectations. Which makes it crushingly disappointing when the day doesnβt live up to expectations. My first ever Mothering Sunday in 2012 is a prime example when Misery Guts woke up, puked all over the bathroom floor due to a migraine and then had to spend the entire day in bed.Β I had beenΒ so excited beforehandΒ and had the childish anticipationΒ a 5 year oldΒ has before a birthday party. All to have my excitement dashed.
2. It leads to stressed dads. A combination of pressure to get it right,Β being out ofΒ his comfort zone when it came toΒ being in charge ofΒ the household for a dayΒ andΒ over excited kidsΒ led Misery Guts to utter the word βChristβ so many times on Motherβs Day Iβll be amazed if BB doesnβt come out with it, in context, at some stage in the very near future.
3. It winds kids up the wrong way. Such was BBβs excitement over Motherβs Day β the making of cards, the hiding of presents, the whispered secrets with daddy β that by 5 oβclock she had reached peak frenzy and turned into a whingeing, over-tired brat. Possibly made worse by the stress vibes emanating from Misery Guts highlighted in point two.
4. It causes mum meltdowns. Having learnt from bitter experience that its best not to make plans (see point one), we made none except to keep the day free. Because it was a nice day weΒ headed to a nearby beauty spot for a nice walk,Β where in less than half an hour I witnessed two mum meltdowns.
The first mum must have been properly at the end of her rope because she shouted, at a little girl who couldnβt have been more than four: βThatβs it. Youβve ruined my Motherβs Day!β and stomped off, leaving a bewildered looking grandad to pick up the pieces. To make matters worse, onlookers β including Misery Guts and myself β couldnβt keep the smirks from our faces.
The second meltdown wasΒ by a mum who unceremoniously manhandled a wailing boy from a car and dumped him on the grass verge behind the vehicle, before also stomping off. Of course there’s no telling what had gone on beforehand, but I’m willing to bet the fact it was Mother’s Day somehow made it worse.
5. The hangover. And I donβt mean from drinking too much wine the night before β Iβm talking about the kids. BBβs over-excitement extended into Monday morning when she discovered I had only left her one of the chocolates sheβd bought for me but done a jolly good job of devouring herself the day before. Cue huge, sprouting tears, a red blotchy face and a major strop all before 8am.
How did your Mother’s Day go? Did you see any stressed dads or mum meltdowns?
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Yesterday was my first Mother’s Day, and while I got some nice flowers, chocolates, wine and a card that was ‘signed’ by my daughter, she is also suffering from a horrible chest cold (as am I), so she was pretty cranky most of the day, and we had to put her to bed at 6pm. It wasn’t a perfect day, but I guess that’s what motherhood is about! #fartglitter
It’s so typical isn’t it! I hope you’re both feeling better soon & remember there’s always next year!!
Completely agree! It raises expectations and puts little ones under pressure to behave perfectly just because it’s MD. And husbands feel bad if day doesn’t go right as well. We had far more strops yesterday than we usually have in a day and I think it’s because my son was upset with himself when he kept on losing his temper! But the day was salvaged by cuddling on the sofa and watching the last half of Moonraker together – so yay James Bond!
007 to the rescue – love it! We definitely had more tantrums than usual yesterday toox
I had low expectations and ended up having a really nice day. I’m easily pleased- a lie in til 7.30am, pancake brekkie and a painted pic by the Baby warmed my cockles
#fartglitter
That sounds lovely & idyllic!
So good I had to share it on. I couldn’t agree more.
It’s a stressful day and it’s hard for those who have lost their mum, can’t have kids or who have lost their children too.
I’m boycotting next year
My day went like this if you fancy a read…
https://www.facebook.com/lifeisknutts/posts/1665602000360051:0
Sounds like your day was similar to mine – the same thing happened with our dishwasher too & I’m still finding things in odd places now! Thanks for sharing!x
I’m already buying into it a little which annoys me because my hubby treats me all the time and doesn’t need a holiday to remind him to treat me well. I did use the mothers day card to sneak off for some fizz with my mates though. #fartglitter
Good for you! I hope you had a lovely timex
Mother’s day is a bit like Valentine’s Day. Overrated and commercialised by shops to make people spend more.
Us mums are amazing people, do we really need one day of the year to be told we’re doing a good job ? Of course it’s nice to have a card and flowers but who need a a teddy with world’s best mum on? We’re too cool for that! Xx
I do need a day of the year to be pampered and have a day off from wiping though, so I’m all for it!!
I can’t believe some Mum’s get so worked up over it?! The meltdowns?? OMG! kids are kids who don’t behave on Christmas Day; why the heck would they be angels on Mother’s Day? Fab post lovely. I was happy with a card and pressie and lots of cuddles. xx #fartglitter
I know I couldnβt believe the mum who actually accused her little one of ruining her day!! Poor little girl!
I agree with you. I like to make a bit of a fuss of my Mum and Mum in law but as far as I’m concerned I just like to keep it simple. Hubby knows to get me a card (after having forgotten last year – oops), but otherwise I just like to think that it gives me the right to say “it can’t possibly be up to me to have to empty the dishwasher – it’s Mother’s Day!” That is quite exciting enough for me! :0)
Great post x
A day off from emptying the dishwasher is exciting for me too – how sad is that!!
… oops – #fartglitter π
Thanks for popping overx
Yesterday was my second Mother’s Day but also my second without my own Mum. Of all the days in the year, I find Mother’s Day hardest from a grief perspective because you’ve have to endure the TV, radio, shops and everything else ‘flaunting’ spoiling your Mum plans for weeks and weeks. It isn’t help by the fact my OH doesn’t even think that I might like some flowers of a card from my daughter. I got nothing last year and (despite getting him a personalised mug for Father’s Day) didn’t get anything this year. I didn’t expect anything but felt disappointed anyway!!!
So try as I might to ignore the day yesterday, I couldn’t and felt pretty cr*ppy for the whole day. This morning I woke to a normal Monday and felt lighter and happier again. Nothing good comes of these forced celebrations!
Your post really made me smile π
Oh no! I’m so sorry to read this and my heart goes out to you – after everything that’s happened you deserve a card or a bunch of flowers at least! Tell me where I can find your OH so I can give him a kick up the ***…
Yes, I think the key is not to go in with huge expectations. Anything nice on the day is actually a bonus! I was lucky and got flowers and dinner cooked for me and meltdowns were fairly minimal! #Fartglitter
That’s good to hear – we seemed to have more melt downs that usual on the day, worst luck…
Haha, I completely agree! Mine didn’t quite live up to expectations as Mr J was working from 7am to 6pm so not even a sneaky lie-in. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo
That’s very bad luck! You should insist on Mother’s Day another Sunday instead!!
Expectations definitely need to be low, I think that’s key. It was my first Mother’s Day; had a really nice day but the baby didn’t get the memo so had a pretty broken nights sleep beforehand! #MarvMondays
You’ll have to get the baby in training for next year!!
Yes I agree – I love my handmade cards and all those little things, and the drawings that go in the paper with a little message, beyond that, I’m not a massive fan really and something always goes wrong lol #TwinklyTuesday
There’s just too much pressure for everything to be ‘right’…
Mothers day has always been relatively low key when we were growing up – more about spending time together – so thankfully I’ve never had huge expectations (thank goodness because they would have been well and truly dashed!) This year my husband had Flu so, after a visit to the hospital, I prepped dinner (thank you Slow Cooker) for both sets of our parents! Happy Mothers Day to me! Ha ha #fartglitter
That is BAD luck – sounds a bit like my first Motherβs Day!
I’ve got mixed feelings about the day as my mum died a few years ago. As long as I get a card, I’m good π Hope you had a good one this year!
Yes I can understand that xxx
My Mothers Day was actually okay. I didn’t get a lie in or breakfast in bed but I did get a couple of gifts, plus we went out for coffee and babyccino in the afternoon. It ended up being a normal sunday for us actually…but no drama so all good #twinklytuesday
That sounds nice and peaceful and restful even if it was more like a ‘normal’ Sundayx
We were travelling back from holiday, so my day was filled with grumpy kids and then a grumpy mummy as I unpacked! I think it is a little overrated, I am looking forward to them being a little older and making me breakfast in bed π #fartglitter
Yes breakfast in bed will be fab – I’m looking forward to that too!x
I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry reading this! You do make me giggle although I’m praying you were joking about hubby being stressed about ‘being in charge of the household for a day’…I’m sure that’s poetic license lol. I think all these occasions in general set us up for disappointment depending on our character: Valentines, even our birthday etc. But not celebrating isn’t a great alternative either. Great post as usual.
Thank you and I’m glad I made you giggle – although sadly I wasn’t joking about Misery Guts!
oh crap. sorry #TwinklyTuesday!
oh gosh what a day! I have to wait to May until we have mothers day in Australia, I hope it will be good???? #coolmumclub
You could start dropping hints now!
Back from #CoolMumClub π
Thanks for coming back again!x
I went in with some small expectations this year and I ended up sobbing within about an hour of being up. So have to say I agree! Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x
Oh no – that’s definitely not supposed to happen!x
I am completely with you about the excitement becoming too much for the little ones. Little Button thought it would be an amazing treat to get up at 5am to make me breakfast bless her! #coolmumclub
Oh no – but it’s the thought that counts!!x
Think I commented earlier in the week on another linky! Mothers day isn’t about extravagant gifts it’s the small things like a cup of tea in bed Tylor just a simple thank you xx
And drinking that cup of tea hot too!
Oh yes the expectations and the stress of organising and getting it right, especially when it’s out of your comfort zone can get to everyone. In my family, we don’t take these celebrations too seriously. I do expect a little pampering, like a little lie in or no cooking, but we’re not big into celebrating because the children, as they get older, they get stressed as over what is “expected” of them to do. I have told my kids and hubby that all I really want is a day with them, even if it’s lounging in our pyjamas all day and doing nothing. #FridayFrolics
A lie in and no cooking was just perfect for me! Now if only every day could be like that…
Mother’s Day puts so much pressure on everyone doesn’t it?! My own Mum hates it and doesn’t even like me getting her a card (which I insist on doing) or a present and it all stems from an incident with her own Mum when she was 18 and had put a lot of effort into getting her Mum a present for all it to go very wrong. Now she can’t abide the day. Too much pressure. This year was rather lovely and I was suprised because like you I have to come to realise the best ones are the ones with no expectations or plans. The key is to always to lower your expectations π #fridayfrolics
Yes that’s true – my expectations have dramatically lowered since becoming a mum!!
It was a work day here so it was much easier. A card in the morning then wave daddy off to work! I went swimming in the afternoon with friends, lovely! #FridayFrolics x
Oh no – a normal working day…that’s bad luck! Hope you enjoyed your swim x
Very true. By the time we’ve visited my mum and the mother-in-law, there’s not much time left for me! Thanks for linking up to #FridayFrolics
Poor you – we don’t visit my mum or MIL on the day and Face Time instead x
Haha This is brilliant!! So funny and so true. #FridayFrolics
Glad you enjoyed it!
“You’ve ruined my mother’s day!” What a dreadful thing for that mother to say. Not keeping things in perspective at all in my opinion. I fear it’s rather like Valentine’s Day, we’re just not big on such celebrations in this house. This year Mother’s Day pretty much went under the radar as we’re in the midst of major building works. Had bigger fish to fry. #TheList
The mother was more of a spoilt brat than the child from what I saw!! Not sure I’d be happy with Mother’s Day going under the radar in our house though!!
Mother’s day was nice for me this year as it was my birthday the day before, so it gave me a valid reason to string the celebrations out a bit longer. Xxx #thelist
Oh our mother’s days are a lot more relaxed than that. I am quite chilled out which I think helps. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x