Apparently a quarter of all parents of young children in the UK use TV as a babysitter.
Anyone who comes to our house during the daytime will know the TV is pretty much guaranteed to beΒ on, perma-tuned to the likes of CBeebies and Tiny Pop.
As a stay-and-work-at-home mum the TV is my friend – in fact, just likeΒ the Teletubbies, I couldn’t live without it. Unless theyβre watching Ross Kemp on Gangs or Topless Darts I fail to see the problem.
Admittedly BB does do an uncanny impression of the Go Compare advert, and admittedly when she recently spilt blueberry juice on her school shirt she said βitβs ok mummy, we just need to get some Vanish Gold Oxi for whitesβ (I kid you not). But surely these are mere trifles in the grand scheme of things.
Iβm not ashamed of using the TV as a babysitter, and nor should you be. As if there isnβt already enough to worry about.
10 reasons itβs ok to use TV as a babysitter
1. When theyβre ill. What better way to enforce rest β and therefore recovery – than to settle them down in front of their favourite programme or TV channel dosed up with medicine and under a blanket?
2. When youβre ill. How else are you going to get any rest β and therefore recover β if theyβre bouncing off the walls demanding you get out the play-doh, craft box, or β worse still – Aquabeads?
3. When theyβre tired. BB often comes home from school absolutely exhausted, particularly towards the end of the week. Sheβs not good for anything other than lying on the sofa watching TV, and frankly thatβs the best place for her.
4. When youβre tired. Letβs face it, we canβt all be cookie-baking, play-doh-making, letβs-get-the-glitter-out parents all the time. Sometimes the flick of a switch is as far as my imagination will stretch.
5. When you work from home. Iβve written before about how to work from home with a baby and stay (relatively) sane, and the TV plays a major role in this. If I have a deadline or important phone call, what better way to keep them occupied than their favourite TV show?
My saving grace at the moment is CBeebiesβ stop motion Twirlywoos (who needs CGI?) which practically hypnotises Little B. We were recently treated to a sneak preview of the brand new Twirlywoos episodes and sure enough, he was absolutely captivated and didnβt budge from his seat for the entire length of the show (15 minutes β andΒ itβs amazing what you can achieve in 15 minutes).
6. TV can be educational. I’m talking about good quality TV here, not TOWIE. Itβs always baffled me exactly how programmes like Teletubbies andΒ the Twirlywoos do it. How do they βspeakβ to kids in ways us parents just canβt? I got the chance to ask Twirlywoos creatorΒ Anne Wood (of original Teletubbies and In The Night Garden fame) that very question and sheΒ told meΒ thereβs no secret formula.
She says: βItβs a question of long experience of trying to understand the world from a childβs point of view. Children live in the same world as us but they see it very differently and so we try to make shows that speak to children. Not just talk at them, but have a conversation with them.β
Anne is in her 70s and Ragdoll Productions, which has been producing award-winning kids’ TV for decades, is her brainchild. Frankly she’s far better qualified than I am to teach my kids anything useful, and I’m more than happy to leave them in her capable hands.
7. When you need to cook. Thereβs nothing worse than having a baby or toddler crawling around your feet or emptying cupboards when youβre boiling water orΒ you’ve got knives out. The way I see it, the TV is keeping them safe.
8. When you want to go to the loo β alone. A rare occurrence, I know, but it does work from time to time.
9. When you Just. Need. Five. Minutes. Sometimes, when both BB and Little B are staring agog at the TV, I go into my bedroom and lie face down across the bed. It might only be for a minute, but itβs surprisingly therapeutic.
10. It helps keep you sane. IΒ simply don’t understand people who have kids but don’t have a TV. A bitΒ like people who don’t drink, I’m inclined toΒ view them with suspicion.Β What do they do when they need to do something requiring one iota of concentration?
Do you think it’s ok to use TV as a babysitter? Or do you think relying on screens is a big no no?
We were sent an exclusive Twirlywoos headband in exchange for this post, and I also got the chance to interview the show’s creator AnneΒ Wood. As always all opinions are my own and based on my own honest experience.
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TOWIE can’t be educational? That explains a lot!! Fab post, I don’t know where I’d be without the TV. Although, I do think the Twirlywoos make my son naughty! #bestandworst
I couldn’t agree more, there is no reason not to use TV for all the times you mention, yes it would be lovely to always sit with them, but actually they don’t need it and we can’t always do that. #BestWorst
Now and again you read a blog post and you scream from the top of your lungs “I’m Bloody normal and I’m not a bad Mum”. I have no idea what I would do without a TV – I honestly thought my world had ended when Henry outgrew his Jumperoo. But I found that the TV still kept him transfixed when I needed a previous minute or 10. Thanks lovely. Needed that x
I agree with this post whole-heartedly. As a SAHM, the TV is our best friend and babysitter. Though I do feel a tad guilty of too much screen time some days, as you rightly pointed out, stuff needs to be done and we need to keep sane. Besides, my little fellow has learnt and is learning SO MUCH from all the shows he watches, its incredible! So three cheers to the idiot-box.
Here’s a post I wrote earlier this year on the same lines.
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I totally agree with this. I record Bing because my eldest loves it and if we need time to get things done she will sit and watch it!
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I have never had a problem with some TV time so I can get something done and don’t lose my freaking mind. I mean, four small kids, a growing blog and the daily chores.
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Wonderful post and tv is a must.
Yes, yes and yes to all of the above. Believe it or not my son who has as everest speech disorder has learnt more speech and language from his favourite TV shows than anything else because that’s what he’s interested and so that’s what motivates him and my daughter can literally spend hours watching paw patrol while I’m catching up on housework. I think that as long as kids are getting some fresh air and human interaction at some point every day, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with TV.
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I plonk my baby infront of the TV when im doing housework. Sometimes needs must.
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Yes! totaly and completely agree on this!:))
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Ohh interesting. I don’t really watch TV, so I don’t even think to switch it on when I am home, but my hubby does. I do use YouTube videos as entertainment in the car, so I guess that’s similar. Our daughter is probably too young for TV anyway, but when she is older I will have no problem with using the TV as a babysitter either!! Whatever works, I say! #ablogginggoodtime
I agree with you completely. I would never support leaving a kid in front of the TV all day everyday, but as you’ve rightly pointed out there are times when you just need them still, calm and distracted. In those scenarios I don’t see any other solution than TV, since sedating is definitely not the right solution! My husband asked me many times during my Mat Leave: “You don’t have the TV on too much during the day do you?”. You’ll be surprised to know he is, by my good grace and tolerance, still alive and unharmed. But he’s lucky! Because you really do need some small blocks of time to do things other than feed and entertain your offspring! Some mornings I chuck ‘Frozen’ on as soon as we’ve had breakfast just so I can have a cuppa. After I get back from work and collect my daughter from nursery, we always sit with a snack and watch the end of ‘The Chase’; Sure she’s not even 2 and can’t understand it but I figure some general knowledge will trickle in…
It’s all about balance isn’t it. Some TV everyday won’t hurt as long as they also play games, go outside and interact with real people. Besides, as adults we need to switch off so why are children different?
p.s. The “Vanish Gold” bit made me laugh so much. Kids have such good memories π #CoolMumClub
I agree – I think it’s ok in the above instances so long as the content is age appropriate but it’s the hours and hours of watching mindlessly for no apparent reason (apart from when illness is involved!) which I’m against. Great post thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xx
OH my goodness I am sooo with you on this post!! I do try and limit the TV sometimes but more often than not Tiny Pop or a film is usually on during the day when both kids are around!! Thanks for linking up #bestandworst
It is a life saver sometimes. If my daughter is tired and under my feet whining it really is unbearable for both of us. Go watch some TV and give us both a break! #ablogginggoodtime
I have to admit I wish that I used the tv a bit less than I do… But I figure as long as I balance it with doing lots of nice things with the kids too then it’s ok. Thanks for posting, always nice to be reminded we aren’t alone! Xx #bestandworst
I think TV is absolutely okay, but all in moderation and obviously tailored to the age of the child both Time wise and content wise. My boy is 10 months now and we’ve just introduced him to in the night garden, he genuinely seemed to enjoy it! Like he wasn’t just entranced, but he was laughing and talking at the TV. That clearly tells me that he is getting something out of it and therefore I feel okay taking that break on the sofa with him instead of constantly being in entertainment mode! π #ablogginggoodtime
I go for the 50:50 approach to our days – normally half the day out somewhere, and the other at home. Of the 3 hours ish at home, there is normally some eating involved, some playing involved and a bit of TV involved. As you say, we all need a bit of down time and to get stuff done. TV certainly has it’s place!
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I have a limit on the TV time each day but I have used it when carrying out important phone calls and as you say to keep them sat stationary when they need to recover from illness.
I am with you on this although we have a tendency to pop on Disney films and the little man gets overjoyed when he sees the castle at the beginning and pretty much jumps n to the sofa with a huge beaming smile to wait and see which film will begin! I am a massive Disney fan so am totally ok with his adoration for it too <3 Especially the I am ill… or hungover… which is not often (but Im totally with you on not understanding why people don't drink!? I mean we all need a few every now and again simply to remain sane!) but we snuggle under a blanket with snacks and tea and sink in to a good classic Disney movie. Bliss. <3 #coolmumclub
I totally agree! I do sometimes wonder if H watches too much as she now asked for certain episodes of programmes (on I player), but it’s been my lifesaver over these last couple of months. We’ll look forward to these new episodes x
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Haha..100% agree! Especially the suspicious feeling when they tell you they don’t have a TV. =) #bestandworst
I think I’m more addicted to CBeebies than my kids are? I tend to reach for the remote instinctively and they’ll be off playing somewhere. I just like the background noise. At least it’s age appropriate though hey? π x #bestandworst
I completely agree and want to say thank you for making me feel im not the only one who thinks its not such an evil thing!!
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