A few weeks ago one of our neighbours died. She had a brain tumour and was responding well to treatment, but then she got pneumonia and suddenly that was it. She leaves a husband and two children under seven, a son and a little girl BB’s age.
I only really knew her by sight and we’d spoken on a handful of occasions, but I can’t stop thinking about it. One week I saw her jogging down the road to go for a run, like she always did, and the next she was gone. Just like that. She didn’t even look ill.
I can’t help but wonder what would happen if something like that were to happen to us. Would Misery Guts have to give up work? What would happen to the children? Would they cope?
To say we haven’t planned for such an eventuality is a massive understatement. When BB was born in 2011 I thought about this and we both took out life insurance, but that’s as far as it goes.
We haven’t made wills – I assume if one of us were to die the money would go to the other, with some of it spent on necessities such as bills and put towards planning a funeral with the help of the local funeral director but I don’t actually know that – and if we were both to go at the same time I have no idea what would happen to the money. Or the kids. Would the money go into a trust for BB and Little B? Should we set one up? Presumably we ought to decide who we’d want to look after the children?
All of this has made me realise we really ought to do something about it, and I know having a plan in place would make things easier in the long run if the unthinkable were to happen. So it was timely when Coles Solicitors got in touch to see if I’d be willing to write a post about the importance of probate law.
I know it’s something most of us would rather not think about but having a plan in place does offer peace of mind. They have probate solicitors who can sort it all out for you – will writing and Power of Attorney to allow family and friends control over your affairs, and they can also help with all the loose ends there are to tie up if you’re left dealing with a death like bank accounts, property and share certificates.
You don’t even have to go to them – they can visit you at home or organise everything online or over the phone and the first meeting is always free.
We definitely need to make time to look into this and while it’s a daunting task it’s good to know there are companies out there who can help with everything.
Do you already have plans in place or is this something still on your to-do list? Could you cope with a sudden death?
This is a collaborative post.
We are going to make wills as just buying a new house and the solicitor mentioned it to us. Scary but needs to be done. I have just gone through the probate process for my Grandma and not too bad. So sorry about your neighbour..so sad and can really get to you!!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst xx
We don’t own a property yet which I guess is one of the reasons we haven’t got it sorted out before – glad to hear your Grandma’s probate went OK x
We need to do this, we have a will in place and life insurance on the two of us (more on the husband than me) it’s scary, but having my MIL and my Dad pass away unexpectedly within 6 weeks of each other with no warning we decided we better make sure something was in place. Life doesn’t always go the way you expect it too xx #bestandworst
Sorry to hear that – how awful. My life insurance is actually more than Misery Guts’s because if I wasn’t around there’d be childcare costs etc – maybe we should up his too!
We’ve been talking about this recently too – my OH is 13 years older than me and he worries about it sometimes and how we’d cope if anything were to happen. It feels scary talking about it but I know it has to be done. I had a school friend die of a brain tumour recently and I felt so odd, she was diagnosed and then a month later that was it..puts everything in perspective xx #bestandworst
It’s so horrible how quickly these things happen too – it’s so important to just live every day but also plan ahead too x
I really need to get sorted on this, we don’t have wills, and no formal arrangements and it does worry me, you just don’t know what’s round the corner #bestandworst
We’re in exactly the same boat as I’m sure many people are – it’s not something we really want to think about either…
We haven’t made wills yet and need to, we keep saying we need to do it and keep forgetting. Thanks for the reminder! #bestandworst
We’re exactly the same and STILL haven’t done it!!