It turns out I was right not to write a birth plan.
After considering the pros and cons of writing one, and wanting the ‘perfect’ birth like last time but fearing writing my hopes down would mean the opposite would happen, I left the page completely blank ahead of Littlest B’s arrival on Valentine’s Day.
And it’s just as well, because we’d have fallen at the first hurdle.
When the time came to call the hospital to tell them we were coming in the unthinkable happened: the maternity unit was full.
Yep, there was no room at the inn.
In a matter of seconds the picture I’d built in my mind of travelling to our local hospital five minutes up the road, labouring in a birthing pool I could visualise because I’d been there before and recovering in a room overlooking the sea like I did with Little B evaporated.
We were off to a hospital 40 minutes away, not only in a different town but in a different county, to a birthing unit I’d never been to before and a maternity wing I knew nothing about.
And there’s a big difference between a 40 minute car journey when in labour and a five minute one. About eight contractions to be exact.
Can you imagine if I’d had my heart set on giving birth in our local hospital? Can you imagine the panic and uncertainty that might have set in as the plans came crashing down? It’s the sort of hiccup that could throw the best of us and send things heading in a completely different direction…
Of course there was nothing for it but to take a deep breath and get on with it – mainly getting there as fast as possible. While I knew there was a chance of being diverted to a different hospital if ours was full it didn’t occur to me it would actually happen, and we’d made no plans for this eventuality at all.
Needless to say googling the route while actually en route and in labour was a bad idea, as was the fact Misery Guts hadn’t filled up the car and the low fuel warning light flashed intermittently throughout the entire journey. But I digress.
Luckily the last minute change of hospital was the only part of the plan-that-wasn’t-a-plan that didn’t go according to plan, if you see what I mean.
When we arrived at the hospital the midwife asked me what my birth plan was, and I told her I wanted to have a water birth.
She looked at me expectantly, waiting for me to say something else, and I looked at her blankly.
After a pregnant pause (excuse the pun) she asked me what else I wanted, so I told her that was all. It seemed an awful lot to me, but perhaps the fact I hadn’t arrived armed with a tens machine, an iPhone play list and whale music meant I was an easy customer for her.
There was a birthing pool free, I was able to labour and give birth in the water drug-free as I hoped and I caught my baby and brought her to the surface myself. Which is all I could have asked for.
I still maintain that if I’d written down what I wanted it wouldn’t have happened, so I’m glad I left that page blank.
Did you have any unforeseen dramas like being diverted to a different hospital when you gave birth? Or did it all go according to plan?
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I’m pleased that you were able to deliver how you’d hoped and CONGRATULATIONS! I wanted a water birth in Henry took far too long so it didn’t work out, I too didn’t make a plan though so it wasn’t a disappointment. Maybe next time! #marvmondays
I’ve had 2 water births now and loved both of them – so relaxing x
Congratulations on your new arrival! I’m so pleased it went drama free…aside from the diversion to another hospital of course! You did remarkably well to stay calm. That would have really stressed me. But you’re right that you just have to go with it! I think that’s one thing expectant parents should really be advised to plan for these days – having to go somewhere different.
I was fortunate to be able to go to my local (although it’s 20 minutes away). Apart from that very little went to plan with my daughter. I recently wrote my birth story on my blog (https://www.lifemotherhoodandeverything.com/wpblog/parenting/little-h-arrived/) but it took me 2 yrs to want to write it. It’s not awful compared to others I read but not what I’d wanted.
Like you, if I have another I’ll want a birthing pool and apart from that I’ll go with the flow!
Hope you are settling into your new home life well! xx #marvmondays
Thanks for the link – I will take a look!x
Oh blimey what a nightmare. Its lucky you made the 49 minute journey! And as for misery guts and lack of fuel, that did make me laugh. I can only imagine the drama!! Congrats again!! I’ve never had a birth plan! thanks for joining us for #marvmondays
The fuel tank thing was so typical..!
Oh wow! So glad it turned out well after that dramatic start! #postsfromtheheart
Me too!!
Aw all’s well that ends well! Congratulations! #marvmondays
Yes that’s so true!
Huge congratulations! I didn’t write a birth plan either first time around and I won’t be for this time either (only 25 weeks at the moment, so still seem ages away!) Like you, the only slight plan I had was that I’d like to use the birthing pool, but despite finding them all free when we arrived, it wasn’t to be, as I had a fast heart rate which required an IV, and then there was meconium in my waters when they were broken. I’m really pleased that you got your water birth, even if it was at a different hospital, and you sound much calmer than I’d have been in that situation – 40 minutes is a long time when you’re on your way to hospital!
To be honest I surprised myself with how calm I was about it. There was nothing I could do though so no point stressing about it…
Ahh I’m so pleased that it all worked out how you had wanted. I didn’t write a birth plan with any of my five, all I knew was that I didn’t want an epidural! I was induced with four of them so any plans I may have had wouldn’t have gone ahead anyway! xx
It’s so annoying having to be induced isn’t it as it does limit your options…
Ahh I’m so pleased that it all worked out how you had wanted. I didn’t write a birth plan with any of my five, all I knew was that I didn’t want an epidural! I was induced with four of them so any plans I may have had wouldn’t have gone ahead anyway! xx
oh my goodness, I’d have hated to travel that far while in labour. I did write birth plans but I knew they would never be set in stone.
The car journey was…interesting!
I wrote one and never took it out of the bag. I wouldn’t bother next time as you never know what it’s going to be like #marvmondays
Quite!
I refused to plan anything with either of mine, or even think about it. When I arrived at hospital both times I was asked the basic “what do you want to do?” and I responded both times with “Have a baby”.
I just thought the most natural thing to do in a situation I had very little control over was to just let my body, and nature, do its thing, whatever that may be. #MarvMondays
Love your response! I think if you try & control things too much you’re setting yourself up for disappointment…
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Congratulations! A wise friend gave me advice when it come to writing a birthing plan and said “plan not to follow your plan”, that way if you do it’s a bonus and if you don’t you planned it! I basically decided to just trust the people around me and let them tell me if the plan needed to change. It made me feel so much more relaxed! #PostsFromTheHeart
That is very sage advice!
I didn’t write a birth plan either and ended up being glad as it all went a bit tits up half way through. Total hats off to you though as birth is unpredictable and stressful enough without the shock of having to go to a totally different hospital – I thought that only happened in stories made up to scare pregnant women! #postsfromtheheart
I’m afraid it’s not made up – hope I haven’t scared you!
I didn’t write a plan with any of my three. I knew that labour and delivery wasn’t going to be as straightforward as I dreamed so I just wanted to be able to go with the flow. I just told the midwife the things I was certain I wanted, like delayed cord clamping, for dad to cut the cord and that I was willing to have the injection to help deliver the placenta. #postsfromtheheart
We waited until the cord had stopped pulsating, and Misery Guts cut the cord too. Even though the cord had stopped Littlest B still jumped when it happened!
I wish I hadn’t made one for my first either. It was totally different to the naive view I had For my second they kept asking me to write one so I wrote ‘get the baby out safely’ xx #marvmondays
That’s very good! And for them to arrive safely is all any of us wants…
Congratulations!
I have never wrote a birth plan work any of my births.
I am thinking of doing one for my upcoming number 6 but I always think, does anyone really keep to them or just go with it? Xxcx
I say just go with it – good luck!x
Congratulations!! Oh my goodness, I couldn’t imagine being diverted to another hospital, so how you stayed calm while in labour…that’s amazing!! I gave birth an hour after arriving to hospital, so if they had diverted me, I would have given birth in the car. They kept saying because it was my first baby I would be in labour for hours and hours…when it actually only took 6 hours. it was a good thing I ignored them and drove in anyway! Enjoy your new little bundle of joy! #twinklytuesday
I’ve always given birth very soon after arriving at hospital too – that 1cm per hour saying is nonsense!
Oh no, that’s the sort of thing you hear about but never think will happen to you. At least you got the water birth you were hoping for though. Congratulations x
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Congratulations !!!!! Im glad this had a happy ending.My birth with Charley went full circle from waters breaking and no contractions to being told i wasn’t allowed a water birth to ending up in the pool 48hrs later having her.By the time she came out i was so exhausted i would have given birth in the broom cupboard.Thanks for linking up with #PostsfromtheHeart
Aside from 40 minute journey (can’t sympathies there) your birth sounds idyllic. Mine was pretty hideous. The 6 days after that the spent in hospital the midwives all made this clear to me. Hubbie is emotionally traumatised by the whole thing. I won’t go into detail but let’s just say, involuntary contractions from the get go, thickened cervix, baby not budging, failed forceps of which I felt as epidural wasn’t set high enough, bandles ring and finally emergency c section with a taccycardic mummy unable to hold her baby for the first hour of his life. Oh and the blow in recovery that I’m not eligible for VBAC Something I’ve still not fully come to terms with 2 years later.
Congratulations again lovely, so glad you got your water birth. I think having no birthing plan is a great idea..I didn’t write one second time except that I wanted a water birth..so glad I got that.xx #marvmondays
I spent hours carefully crafting an ideal birth plan with our first… None of which went to plan as I almost died (literally) and ended up in surgery a year later to repair issues which I was left with.
Thankfully our son was born healthy and we both survived the trauma.
Four years later when I was to have our little lady the only thing that I knew was that we were definitely having a c section as instructed for our safety. Other than a few cds to help me relax I hadn’t got a plan, I didn’t write a word! I had the best second birth I could ever ask for!
Congratulations!!! And well done all (apart from the place that was full maybe). I knew things don’t always go according to plan so had some ideas but wasn’t set in a path or anything. All I really said was that I didn’t want pethidine as I wanted to be with it and was a bit scared of its side effects. It was actually suggested during my first and I said no thanks (or something like that). At least it meant I wasn’t stressed out about anything though.
Congratulations again! Gorgeous photo!