The thing they donβt tell you about toilet training is that it goes way beyond simply getting them to do their business in the loo. Quite literally.
Little βspillagesβ and requests to wipe bottoms can go on for years, and the fact is you wonβt always be on hand to help. So what do you do when itβs time to start school?
BB goes into year one this September and despite being five and having been at school for a whole year thereβs definitely still work to do in the toilet department.
Iβve spent the last few weeks of the school holidays reinforcing a ‘clean routine’, and if youβve got a little one starting school for the first time or if theyβre older like BB I thought now would be a good time to share what weβve been up to.
How to get them school ready in the toilet department
1. Doing the business problem one: βItβs gone on the floor!β And Iβm not just talking about number ones. Either they donβt quite make it to the loo before starting to go, itβs a runny one or they simply missed, if it ends up on the floor at home the chances are itβs going to end up on the floor at school.
What you can do: Buy super thick loo roll and encourage them to wipe up after themselves. You the know the stuff, nice quilted roll thatβs more absorbent than the thinner versions. Admittedly theyβre unlikely to have quilted loo roll at school, but they no longer have the tracing paper stuff either.
2. Doing the business problem two: βMummy thereβs poo on my hand!β I donβt know about you, but in our house this little gem is always delivered with glee, never dismay.
What you can do: As well as encouraging them to use enough look roll, encourage them to wash their hands really well by buying a fun soap dispenser instead of a traditional bar of soap. This also gets them used to using a dispenser, which they always have in schools (the days of cracked bars with black ridges up the middle are long gone).
3. Doing the business problem three: βCan you wipe my bottom?β Despite being able to wipe her own bottom for more than two years, when it comes to doing the business at home BB always asks me to do it. And unsurprisingly wiping bottoms doesnβt feature in a teacherβs job description.
What you can do: Play them at their own game. BB loves to tell me how grown up she is because sheβs five. She should be allowed to pour her own milk in her cereal because sheβs five, she should be allowed to stay up later because sheβs five and she should be allowed the sit in the front seat of the car because sheβs five. So I say she would wipe her own bottom on her ownΒ because sheβs five.
4. Doing the business problem four: βBut wiping my bottom is so difficult!β Whether they really do find it hard, they donβt like doing it or theyβre simply lazy, theyβre going to have to wipe their own bottom at school.
What you can do: Buy flushable toilet tissue wipes at home to help them get the hang of it. Theyβre really easy to use and will show them wiping isnβt soΒ difficult after all.
5. Doing the business problem five: Accidents. It doesnβt matter whether theyβve been toilet trained for a couple of years or a couple of months, what with the excitement of the school day, being absorbed in what theyβre doing and not wanting to miss out on activities by leaving the classroom donβt be surprised if they have an accident at some stage at school.
What you can do: Donβt make a big deal about it. Talk to them about the accident and what they can do to help stop it happening again. Also talk to their teacher, who will be experienced in this sort of thing and will be able to help by reminding them to go during the school day. BBβs reception teacher was absolutely brilliant β she had a box of spare pants on hand and always dealt with things discreetly so as not to embarrass the child in question.
I have to say I shudder to think what goes on in school loos and itβs probably best not to think about it. Just make sure they wash their hands as soon as they get home β especially before eating anything.
If you have a child starting school this SeptemberΒ Andrex is holding a live TwitterΒ Q&A session with parenting expert Fi Star Stone as part of its #andrexschoolready campaign. The Twitter party is on Tuesday September 13th from 10am to 12pm when youβll be able to ask FiΒ for advice onΒ anything you like about helping your little one start school using the hashtag #andrexschoolready. Iβll be there asking advice on some of the above!
How did you get your child school ready in the toilet department? Do you have any useful advice or tips?
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Great post! I’ll never forget the sight of – let’s save embarrassment by just saying ‘a young male person I knew well’ – coming home from school with sopping wet trousers smelling strongly of something which was not orange juice or water or rain. His sensible mother – not making a big deal, as Crummy Mummy recommends – merely asked him casually if he’d like to pop upstairs and get changed. “Oh no”, came the reply, “it’s just a little bit of dampness!”
We are trying but in all honesty not
Getting very far and the girls start school Tuesday full time oh well keep trying great tips though #fartglitter
Haha yes, we have ended up with poo on their hands far too many times!! I worry about Eva starting school tomorrow and whether someone will help her if she needs it but I don’t think she is the kind of child who would ask a teacher. I think I’m going to be scrubbing dirty knickers every night!! Lovely. The joys of parenting hey? #fartglitter
Oh, I know the ‘there’s poo on my hand’ comment. Even at 4 my son seems to think putting his hand down his trousers is a great way to see if he needs to go to the toilet! My daughter, on the other hand, seemed to get the hang of it much quicker but seems to think she needs to use half the toilet roll every time she goes – if it’s not one thing it’s another!! #MarvMondays
Great post. My son is doing his own thing at the toilet or at the potty, but I’m always there to clean the off. I should teach him to do this himself π #FartGlitter
Toilet training is not a milestone I’m looking forward to! It’s interesting to read about though, and I dread to think what’s lurking in school toilets too! #fartglitter
We have a minion soap dispenser that makes minion noises (so annoying, Daddy’s fault) but at least they do wash their hands. Moist wipes are definitely the way forward #FartGlitter
I can relate with this post. T is now in Year 2, but sometimes you’ll hear an occasional shriek in the bathroom and all because of the dreaded poo in hands accident. If it happens at school I told her to just wipe it off with toilet paper and make sure that she washes her hands with soap very well π
Great tips! My girlie is 3 and keen to do it all herself but we get the inevitable poo stained knickers!! I think the wet wipes are a great idea. We also had a really random accident on the floor last week but like you, made no big deal of it and it’t not happened again! Hope school goes well! Eeek I dread to think about all the germs xx #fartglitter
We have a soap dispenser which helps makes washing hands more fun but getting J to wipe properly is still a bit hit and miss. “Mummy I’ve got poo on my hand” is a cry that is heard here more often than I would like – and yes it is always delivered with glee too! Hopefully they’ll get on just fine at school! Thanks for linking up to #ftmob π
Hi Natalie, I am so glad to read that they no longer have that tracing paper they used to pass off as toilet roll! That was horrible stuff. And aren’t wet wipes brilliant for making sure little bums are clean? Great tips for helping little ones be prepared for going it alone.
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Sometimes when I make mine wash hands straight after school, the grime that comes off is truly disgusting x
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I honestly didn’t appreciate just how much “bum wipage” would be involved in raising children? Miss Tot tends to kindly shout me upstairs when she has done a number 2 (all by herself like a big girl), and I often walk into the bathroom to find her bent over touching her toes waiting for me. It still comes as a bit of a shock I must admit! Great tips and advice. Thanks for sharing, #fartglitter x
Potty/toilet training is my least favourite of all things motherhood. Yep, poo on their hands, yours, the potty that needs to get cleaned somehow, the poo that doesn’t want to come out, the poo that comes out too quickly in brand new pants (bye bye pants!)… My youngest is 2 and I’m not looking forward to that stage!
We get theTHERES POO ON THE TOILET and the using of a whole loo roll…. We have a way to go I hope he doesn’t need to poo at school!
Oh my word, this has made me LOL!
My eldest daughter is the same age as yours, we still have the ‘will you wipe my bum’ request regularly, which infuriates me as I think she is just testing me to see if I will actually go along with this! You know what really gets me though – it’s the not flushing thing.
It feels like every time I go to the loo there is a shiny new turd waiting for me to flush.
serious toilet issues. Now its the turn of my 2.5 yr old, to be honest I keep putting her in pull up pants and calling them knickers. what a cheat!
big love, L xx
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The boys are now both out of nappies (only just though, we toilet trained Bertie in July!!) β although I think we’ve years ahead of ‘MUMMY CAN YOU WIPE MY BOTTOM PLEASE????!!!’ LOL!! It’s never ending isn’t it? Fab post!! xx #TwinklyTuesday
My son is in year one now and still can’t wipe his bum properly! I hate when he poos at school and comes home with a dirty bum, ah the joys of having kids!Β #twinklytuesday
Our problem wan’t that mine didn’t want to wipe herself, she just wasn’t very good at the back end. Nice for those days to finally be over #twinklytuesday
This did make me chuckle! My eldest went to nursery so was encouraged to be independent there but that didn’t stop the yells of “mummeeeee, I’m finished!” at home. Somehow we got there by explaining the teachers wouldn’t wipe her bottom at school and she’s never had any accidents at school, maybe the odd skid mark though! #twinklytuesday
I can honestly say it was all so long ago now that I can’t remember any bad incidents, but that doesnt mean for a minute they didnt happen. #TwinklyTuesday
Oh yes! My youngest is learning to wipe herself now. She’s only had the ‘I got poo on my hands’ incident about twice so far!
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My middle one always wants me to wipe home at home, even though he’s perfectly able to donor himself! #twinklytuesday
Useful tips. Not looking forward to this stage, although it’s probably preferable to changing nappies when Baby’s main objective seems to be to try to role off the changing table…Will keep these tips in mind though
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I guess I can spend the next year getting Zach ready! He’s very good at going to the loo but still.asks me to wipe. And yet I know he wipes at nursery – he just doesn’t do a very good job! Great advice here! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
Great tips! Our three year old has just started nursery school and they are already expected to be able to take themselves to the toilet on their own. Luckily our little one is well toilet trained, but I’ve spent the last few weeks encouraging her to start wiping her own bum and reinforcing good hygiene habits like washing hands so lots of really great tips in the post π Thanks for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily
We are just about to start down tne potty training route so these are all great tips. x #kcacols
Really good tips here Natalie, and a fun article too. Gosh, I remember all of these issues when our girls were little. I may need to start buying the fun soap dispensers to remind youngest (9) that you don’t stop washing hands after you are 5!! Thanks for linking with #KCACOLS
Funny post – my 5 year old sounds just like your child. Such a big kid but still can’t wipe his own bum! What’s up with that!?! #KCACOLS
This is so true. My little girl started school this week, and her biggest fear was having a poo cause she’d have to wipe herself! #KCACOLS
We were really lucky with the whole toilet training thing, he’s always been so good at all that business. Smells terrible, but he’s good with it haha #KCACOLS
We’re still at least a year away from potty training (in my plan anyway!) and I’m not massively looking forward to it. But already my daughter likes to be a ‘grown-up’ so I’m definitely going to keep some of these tips in mind! #KCACOLS
I’m currently just dreading attempt two at potty training ahhh.. Some great tips for encouraging them to be independent! x #KCAKOLS
Oh man I do not look forward to these days! Great post #KCACOLS
We’re currently potty training our eldest and boy is it hard work. I had hoped it was going to be over in a few months but this post has scared me somewhat!! It looks like I have years of wiping arses ahead!! #KCACOLS
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Oh I remember this stage so well! Thankfully we are passed it now with our oldest but our youngest just turned two so the we are about to head into again, yay!
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I’m working hard on the self wiping at the moment, as soon as poo is involved it’s over to mummy! I might try the flushable wipes. We bought a minions soap dispenser that giggles when you push it which really helps with the hand washing and preschool seem to teach and encourage it which has made a massive difference, it’s not just me claiming it has to be done.
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Oh my goodness, I am so glad that I am not a teacher.
I loved the way you have placed a sunflower in each of the photos to make them seem more appealing and less, well, poo orientated. thanks Pen x #KCACOLS
I’ve just read a whole blog post about poo! Is this what becoming a parent does to a person?! Good tips though, have all this ahead! #KCACOLS
I have a slightly different issue. My big little man is pretty good at wiping him bum but insists on someone checking…whilst he adopts the downward dog pose. Imagine trying to explain that to his new pre-school teacher! #KCACOLS
I was thinking of starting potty training with my little girl in the new year, but after reading this post and the comments, I think I might put it off for a bit longer! These are great tips for when I do finally become brave enough to tackle it! #KCACOLS
Oh that tracing paper stuff was nasty! Kids today don’t know how lucky they are, haha! x #KCACOLS
I’m really luckily that my eldest is really, really good in the toilet department though he is obsessed with us making sure his bottom is clean even when I comment that he is in school and that I won’t there to check when he has a poo X #kcacols