There’s no getting away from it: pregnancy is a tricky business. And pregnancy after miscarriage is even trickier.
I should know, having lost two babies between BB and Little B. But now I’m expecting our third baby and have reached the second trimester of my fifth pregnancy, it turns out it’s still a tricky business.
Things they don’t tell you about pregnancy after miscarriage
1. The first 12 weeks feels more like 12 months. You take each day, then each week and then each month as it comes, not daring to think beyond that or daydream about what might be. By the end of the first trimester you feel like you’ve been pregnant at least a year.
2. You dread the 12-week scan. Instead of looking forward to seeing the cause of all this anguish for the first time, you re-play the potential delivery of bad news over and over again in your mind, just so you’re prepared for it. By the time you actually make it to the scan, you’ve got your knickers in a right proper twist.
3. Every time you go to the loo you look for signs something is wrong. Where you used to stumble into the bathroom in the dark at night you now turn on the light, and you find yourself studying loo roll at ridiculously close proximity. Or is it just me?
4. You wake up in the morning and look for blood. You can’t help it, and it becomes second nature. Or perhaps that’s just me as well!
5. If after the first trimester you feel like you’ve been pregnant for a year, by the end of the pregnancy you feel like you’ve been pregnant your entire life. You can no longer recall not being pregnant or a time when you weren’t in a permanent state of high anxiety.
Mind you, when you think about it, parenthood is all about being in permanent state of high anxiety over one thing or another. Should I have sterilised that spoon? Is a baby with double-jointed thumbs normal? Am I the only one who thinks Gina Ford looks just a little bit scary?
Yep, there’s no getting away from it, parenthood is definitely a tricky business.
Do you find yourself worrying about anything and everything? Do you feel like pregnancy aged you?
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It really is a tricky business. I had a miscarriage before my son was born and it was one of the most horrendous things I have gone through. I then whilst pregnant with my youngest daughter had bleeding, I thought I was losing the pregnancy but she was okay thankfully. The midwife said it was it was possible I lost a twin. xxx
I had bleeding with Little B and have had it in this pregnancy too – I was convinced I had miscarried and was amazed to see a healthy heartbeat when I was referred for a scan! Oh the stress!
Aaaw this sounds exhausting, you poor thing. It’s not quite the same but I felt some of this in my second preganancy because my eldest has a developmental disorder and I was so worried about the second one having it too. I’m glad you are well into you second trimester now, and I wish you well for the rest of your preganancy #TheList
Thanks so much! Hope your second pregnancy went well too x
Pregnancy is such an anxious time, especially during those first 12 weeks. I can’t imagine what it must be like after a miscarriage. I had a huge bleed about 2 days after my first scan with Leo and I was convinced I’d lost him. Those couple hours waiting for a scan in the hospital felt like they lasted forever. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly and you manage to enjoy it as much as you can xx #picknmix
Oh bless you sweetheart, I can only imagine how it feels to lose a baby, one of those things that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I am so happy for you that this pregnancy is going well 🙂
Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix
Stevie xx
No, it’s not just you….definitely not just you xxx I don’t know how anyone can ‘enjoy’ a pregnancy. It’s a long suffering endurance! Take care sweetie. #TheList
Oh no being pregnant is stressful enough worrying about your baby. With your history I’m surprised you didn’t go insane! I hope everything goes smoothly for you #thelist
Thanks so much xx
I can’t imagine how worried I will be if I get pregnant again. Thank you for sharing this and being so honest! #PicknMix
Try not to worry too much – easier said than done I know!x
This is very, very true. Am 15 weeks into my second pregnancy, the first ended at 8 weeks in January. I’m less of an anxious mess now but I agree, it’s such a nervewracking time. Really good luck with your new one! And thanks for talking about it. The less of a stigma and a secret miscarriage is, the better.
I agree – we should talk more about these things. Hope things are still going well – think we’ll be due around the same time!
This totally sums up how I felt during my entire pregnancy. I loved that I was pregnant but was totally convinced that something would go wrong. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x
I was like that with Little B too and am trying so hard not to be this time round!x
Lovely lady I can relate to a little of this and I’m just so over the moon that you’re doing well. It’s exhausting and slow but you’ll soon have that baby in your arms safe and well! x x #TheList
I hope so – you’re so positive as always – fingers crossed!x
I can imagine if we ever had another I would be more of a nervous wreck than I was with the others after having a misscarriage. I had a bleed early on with Ava and would check the loo roll all the time. brilliant that you are doing well. Thanks for linking to #picknmix
Eilidh X
It’s such a scary time isn’t it – thanks for the good wishes x