Patience Deficit Disorder. That’s what Misery Guts claims to suffer from – totally made up of course. I know I’ve written about how miserable he is before, but I really don’t think the true extent of his grumpiness comes across on the blog. You probably wouldn’t believe me if I told you.
I say this after new research by Merlin Annual Pass has revealed the top 50 things that make dads grumpy, as well as the things that cheer them up.
The thing is, the things that supposedly cheer them up are likely to make Misery Guts even worse. For example:
1. Sixty-two per cent of grumpy dads are at their worst during the week, coming out of their mood for the weekend.
It’s the opposite in our house – a combination of both kids running riot, chores to do and a myriad of tasks to cram in is guaranteed to rub Misery Guts up the wrong way. I swear he actually looks forward to going back to work. To be honest, I don’t blame him.
2. A family day out will improve their mood.
Going somewhere involving other people and spending money will bring out the worst in Misery Guts. In fact, it is to be avoided at all cost.
3. Holidays are the best time for most grumpy dads.
I’d say a week into our annual two-week holiday is when Misery Guts is at his peak of grumpiness.
Over the years I’ve come up with a tried and tested strategy for dealing with Patience Deficit Disorder, otherwise known as how to cope with a grumpy man:
1. Put your tongue in your chin like you did at school and pull a face when they’re not looking. This is highly cathartic, especially when they’re mid-rant, as is silently mimicking them.
2. Ignore him. A bit like a toddler having a tantrum, just walk away.
3. Micro-manage situations in which you know they’re likely to blow their top. Again, a bit like dealing with a small child, choose the best time to impart bad news. Like the fact there’s no money left in the joint account and it’s only half way through the month while handing them a cold beer.
4. The silent treatment. This is when you behave like the teenager, and say as little as possible until they realise they’re being a t**t, apologise and harmony is restored. For a little while.
5. Laugh. Make light of a situation by trying to see the funny side – either turn the situation into a joke or turn their response to it into a joke. Because if you don’t laugh you’d cry.
It seems Misery Guts isn’t the only one anyway – apparently a quarter of British dads admit they’re always cranky.
The trouble is the research has also revealed dads are at their grumpiest aged 39 – which means there’s still two years to go for us. Yikes.
Are you one of the 25% of women living with a permanently cranky man? I’d love to hear from you!
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Very good!! Yep I have a grumpy man too, am sure he loved going back to work yesterday after a long xmas hols!!! #twinklytuedays
I’m pretty sure Misery Guts loved his first day back too, although he wouldn’t admit it!
this is so true in our house. he commutes to london and so we get the brunt of it all if there are delayed or cancelled trains. much better at weekends! #twinklytuesday
I wish I could say the same about our weekends – these can send Misery Guts into a right tizz!!
I think it’s the other way round in our house!! I’M the grumpy one — my boy has the patience of a saint dealing with me!! Especially in the mornings!! 😉 #abitofeverything
There’s no room for two grumpy people in our house!!
I am a grumpy man so I don’t know if I get to comment!
Family days out are good because they get everyone away from the relentless trudge of housework and Paw Patrol. Also reduces number of requests for milk, cereal, no in that cup not that one that lead to peak grumpiness.
The most obvious one is being left to my own devices to work through grumpiness so it’s just a passing state of mind rather than a permanent setting!
#alittlebitofeverything
You are completely entitled and very welcome to comment – always good to hear it from ‘the other side’! Relentless trudge is a good way of putting it!
Hahaha, I love number 1 (and have been known to do it occasionally). I am an advocate of number 2. If I get bored of the grumpy moaning I just flick to ignore mode and shut my brain to it – “ooh a butterfly! Tra la laah”.
Great tips!
#abitofeverything
I do number one ALL the time!!
No family ever spent a day at a theme park without somebody crying (and not always the children….)! #TwinklyTuesday
You’re so right!!
Will you hate me forever if I say my fella is almost never grumpy. The only time the grumps emerge is when he is driving. I on the other hand can be very grumpy at times, hormonal and unreasonable and he deals with all that with a smile.
Thanks for linking up, Tracey xx #abitofeverything
You’re not the only one to say that – it stands to reason one of you will be and one of you won’t be. There definitely wouldn’t be room for two grumps in our relationship anyway!
Rev T is somewhat cranky! Great tips for managing the problem!
Number one is my personal fave!
Love it! And know you are not alone. My husband has got decidedly grumpier as he has aged and at the grand old age of 49 is much grumpier now than he was at 39 (just saying).
I have been known to make faces at Grumpy man and try to make light when I know I can without making things worse. Handing him a jar of anti wrinkle face cream can also make him crack a smile, so maybe you could try that too.
xx
Oh no – so Misery Guts could get even WORSE as he gets older? Shoot me now!!
That’s a hilarious statistic about dads being their grumpiest at age 39! My husband is generally pretty ranty. I asked him to keep the ranting to a minimum while I was pregnant, because the baby could hear him. Well, now I have a ranty baby too! I have used all of your strategies but none of them works, I must have an incurable grump haha!
Don’t worry, mine’s incurable too. I’m not sure about the children yet – we’ll have to wait and see!
Its good to read I am not the only one that goes through this! And also good to know I am dealing with it in the right way – thank you! x
You’re certainly not alone!
Oh I am with you in this one, I live with a permenantly grumpy man, and can relate to all of those, especially the tips on dealing with the PDD. Since the little ones came along I leant those skills very quickly, turns out there are actually 3 babies in our house, just one takes the form of a grumpy man. Nice to know I am not alone, but I do sympathise, oh and I find a cold pint can often break a smile…. #marvmondays
I often feel like I have three children too – glad I’m not the only one!x
Yes I am! & 4 years to optimum grumpiness here then! Great! I use your tips 2 & 4 all the time, but…they make him grumpy(er)! I’ll have to try number 1, I think! #KCACOLS
Number one definitely rules!! Sadly Misery Guts couldn’t possibly get any grumpier!
Ha love this. My husband does have his grumpy moments, especially as he is getting older! The thing that really drives him to maximum grumpiness is the chaos that our three kids tend to generate (funnily enough he does work most weekends! and takes a day off during the week instead). Although according to your stat for maximum grumpiness he should have peaked already! #KCACOL.
My Misery Guts always goes mad at the weekend mess – yet it’s nowhere near as bad as it is during the week before he gets home from work!!
Hehe, that’s definitely me! OH says the only thing he really enjoys is complaining, so I shouldn’t take that pleasure away from him! 🙂 #KCACOLS
I think Misery Guts secretly enjoys it too!
Oh gosh i know this all so well. However in our household it’s not just my hubby that is grumpy, but me too. I wonder if there is any hope for us lot lol. I hope things with Misery Guts improves soon. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday. xx #KCACOLS
I don’t expect Misery Guts will improve anytime soon – he’s always been like this sadly!
Haha I love this post and I bet most women can relate! My best technique is the silent treatment. I normally talk for England so when I go silent he knows his in the dog house and immediately apologises haha! #KCACOLS
I find that technique works really well too!
Hahaha….I can recognise some of the symptoms of grumpiness in ME! LOL…My husband is always chirpy. For me, working full time makes me less patient and less immune to the noise and chaos at home and I don’t like spending money as well….Bwahaha…Is there any hope for me, my husband would ask?
I think it does make a big difference if you’re out of the house all day!x
Yup, my husband definitely has this. Although, he leads me into a false sense of security by being uncharacteristically chirpy for a few weeks before the inevitable bad mood returns. I’m always calling him a grumpy old man..maybe that doesn’t help..Great post!xx #kcacols
I’m always suspicious if Misery Guts is in a good mood – it unnerves me! St least you know where you are when they’re grumpy!
My Mr definitely has his moments and I have to say, I’ve probably used some of your strategies once or twice (very effective!). Luckily hes not too bad most of the time, not sure how I’d cope otherwise. Not sure how you do it with a mostly miserable misery guts, no wonder you have a whole list of techniques LOL. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Emily
I’m sure I could up the list of techniques to 10 if pushed too!x
In our house I’m the grumpy guts. My husband is pretty calm most of the time. Although most of his time is spent working or doing DIY. I’m the one who spends all of her time with our son and doing housewife jobs. I do give him a hard time on the odd occasion that he is grumpy whereas he tries his best to try and help out or fix whatever is annoying me. Bad wife! #KCACOLS
It’s so funny how family dynamics work!
Ha,my hubby and my step-dad are total grumpy gits.They do my head in at times!!I’m always pulling faces behind their backs lol x #kcacols
Pulling faces makes you feel so much better!!
haha yes, yes and yes – sometimes the only way I now how to deal with him is treating him like the toddler :p #KCACOLS
They’re simple beings really!
Mr Tin Box can have some seriously cranky moments, but he’s not as bad as I thought having read this 🙂 I do like the idea of pulling faces behind his back when he does get in a mood though! #KCACOLS
The only trouble with the faces is that BB has caught me doing it – not good!x
I think I’m the grumpy one on our relationship. I have extremely low patience and a tendency to get wound up easily. At least the Mummy is fairly level headed.
#fartglitter
I think you definitely need one of each in a relationship – goodness knows what would happen if I was as bad as Misery Guts!!
I was intrigued by the title of this post and thought it sounded like something I could relate to, and I was right! It definitely does get worse the older they get. Maybe after reaching the peak of grumpiness (in a years time supposedly) will he gradually get less grumpy? Let’s hope so! #kcacols
All I can say is that I definitely hope Misery Guts doesn’t get more grumpy – he can be off the scale now!
This is a great post Natalie!! It is interesting to read all these points. My hubby is not a grumpy mum but I think he is getting a little bit lately though and I think as you said it could be the age as he is 39!! lol But to be honest with you I think I’m the grumpy one at home. I know it is bad but it is the truth lol!! And it could be the age too as I’m 38!! I hope this passes soon too!! 😉 Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I would love to see you again on Sunday! 🙂 x
Really love taking part in your linky as I’m meeting so many new bloggers!x
Hahaha love it! I’d say my hubby is definitely less grumpy at weekends, more so if he’s had a bit of a sleep in!! His job is a bit stressful though, so the lesser stress when he’s off or we’re on holiday makes a difference.
Great post #kcacols
I think Misery Guts gets more stressed at home than he does at work!!
Haha! I love this post! – My husband is lways excited on a Friday as its nerly the weekend! He does have the Monday blues though! xx
#HowTo Sundays
Misery Guts gets excited on a Sunday about going back to work!!
This is soooo funny! My hubbie is the Jekyll and Hyde of grumpiness. He is a fun Dad, when he is in a good mood. But he can also annoy the crap out of me when he’s not. I got told off last night, when I said I was going to bed at 10.15pm, as I apparently make him sad by leaving him on his own to continue watching the film, I wasn’t interested in! Men!! #howtosunday
Jekyll and Hyde is exactly how to sum up Misery Guts too!x
Ha ha! Your misery guts and mine have a lot in common, he looks forward to going back work on a Monday and during holidays. I think it’s that he can’t take the kids running riot, is tired from not enough sleep from kids and hates things not going his way. I am kind of hoping that he will get better as the kids are older, but I doubt it! Thank you so much for linking up to #HowtoSunday 🙂 x
Yep – Misery Guts is miserable for all the same reasons. The things we have to put up with!!