When is the best time to leave hospital after having a baby?
One hour post birth? One day? One week?
The Duchess of Cambridge has come under fire for leaving hospital just seven hours after giving birth to baby number three, begging the question: when is the right time to leave hospital after having a baby?
With the eyes of the world on her and the Daily Mailβs royal baby watch cam live outside her window (such a thing did indeed exist) I expect she wanted to hot foot it back behind palace walls as soon as possible – tie her hair back, put her big pants on and get back to the business of recovering from the small matter of having just pushed a human being out of her foof.
But as a result of leaving hospital so soon after giving birth I can’t help but think she must surely have sacrificed some of those magic first hours having her hair and make-up done in preparation for slipping into a Jenny Packham and heels and posing on the steps of the hospital, instead of being snuggled in bed with her newborn.
Should she have stayed in hospital longer and presented the new prince to the world the next day? Or even the day after that?
I stayed in hospital overnight after baby number one, mainly because I was victim of the one-size-fits all NHS system and couldnβt be discharged until BB had had her newborn check, which owing to the time of day she was born couldnβt happen until the following morning. But after baby number two and baby number three, like the Duchess, I was also home within hours. And frankly I couldnβt get out of there fast enough.
But how soon is too soon to leave hospital after having a baby? I asked some fellow mums and dads to share their experiences, which range from one week to just 40 minutes!
Leaving hospital after having a baby: how soon is too soon?
βWith my fifth son, I gave birth at 8.30pm and was in a McDonalds tucking into a Big Mac by 11pm. Everyone is different,β says Kate at Modern Mum.
βI left within 40 mins with my third. I literally arrived at the hospital, gave birth within half an hour – quick shower, dressed and on my way home 40 mins later to be with my family in my own home!β says Elaine at Layney Loves.
βI hate hospitals and managed a six hour turnaround with my first. In fact, she was born at 7am and at 2pm we were walking around town looking for clothes for her as the newborn ones were too big!β says Tracey at Pack the PJs.
βWith my first I was there four days in total and it was hell on earth. With my second I was out the next day (it would have been the same day if she was born earlier) and it was much, much better for me. I hated being in hospital and recovered much quicker once I was out,β says Georgina at Gee Gardner.
βWith my first I gave birth at 5.35am and I left about 6pm the same day. I’m now 39 weeks pregnant and plan on leaving soon after giving birth this time around β hopefully Iβll only be there for a few hours after. I honestly don’t think Kate left too soon. She completed her bit of ‘royal duties’ showing the baby to the world but then she was going back to the comfort of her own home and not being on show to the world (for a few weeks at least!)β says Naomi at Not A Perfect Parent.
βI don’t think she came out of hospital too soon but I do think she appeared in the media limelight too soon after giving birth. It gives the impression that any woman could or should be able to walk out of a hospital immaculately dressed hours after giving birth when most of us don’t,β says Polly at Our Seaside Baby.
βI couldn’t wait to get home, I stayed over night with my first and was home about eight hours after my second which was brilliant. I just wanted to be in my own environment and in my own bed, I think if you feel ok and have had a minimally risky birth I don’t see the problem,β says Helen at Blogging Beautifully.
βI was home within three hours of giving birth to my second child. It was a very straightforward birth and I was happy to be back in my own home enjoying my baby,β says Emma-Louise at Even Angels Fall.
βI gave birth to my second at lunch time and was out by about 8pm and that was only because we had a delay waiting for doctors. Honestly, if mum feels fine to go and baby has been checked, then I see no issue,β says Jade at Mummies Waiting.
βI went home the next day with all three of mine. Poppy was premature and in special care so they offered me a bed on a ward but I said I’d rather have my own bed. It’s not like Kate’s going home to have to cook the dinner and hoover up is it?!β says Fran at Back With A Bump.
βI went home the next day as there were complications in birth. But I was desperate to leave immediately. I didn’t want to stay in there a minute longer than absolutely necessary,β says Clare at Freddies Mummy UK.
βI stayed in seven days after having my twin daughters – but that was my only choice as my son had chicken pox! Everybody is different but most donβt have the luxury of going home to an army of people to do everything for them, so I donβt blame Kate going straight home!β says Beth at Twinderelmo.
βIn Ireland you have to stay three days if not even three nights. On my second though I negotiated with them and left the evening after the second night. Couldn’t hack it in there anymore. I think 24 hours is fair enough if nothing is wrong,β says Janine at Janineβs Little World.
βI left 24 hours after my caesarian which was far too soon! Itβs was also 11.30pm which is madness. I was turfed out 13 hours after my second baby and I was gutted. I was quite comfortable where I was!β says Georgina at Georgina Clarke Blog.
βI left within 24 hours. At the time I couldnβt wait to get home but looking back I think it was way too soon. I was struggling to breastfeed and the first couple of days were so difficult, that said if we did it again perhaps Iβd feel more confident the second-time round,β says Becky at Mommy and Rory.
βI was sent home within two hours, I was literally sat in the same position I had given birth in when they told me they needed the bed. I did feel rushed but I was so pleased to be home in my own bed so quickly. I did the school run the same day but in hindsight wish I had milked it and stayed home in bed smelling that newborn scent,β says Danielle at Blog By Baby.
Have you had a baby in hospital? How long did you stay in for and would you have liked to go home sooner or stay longer? Iβd love to hear your thoughts!
I would have stayed longer but they kick you out here. In hospital is way easier than at home. There’s nothing to do in hospital…it’s all done for you. Except the food sucks. That said, we went to a resort with #3 about 6 days after birth and that was an excellent alternative – and everything is done for you (food and cleaning). All you have to do is supervise the other kids in the pool! #KCACOLS
I hated being in hospital so much. I had to stay in three nights and they offered me longer because my daughter was on NICU, but I just couldn’t stand being on my own in the nights. It felt like all I did was cry the whole time I was there! #KCACOLS
I left the day after, and was glad I did wait rather than leave the same day! I needed to feel ready to go, and my best advice is for all expectant mums to make sure they’re definitely ready to leave!
#KCACOLS
I struggled with breastfeeding my second, he wouldn’t latch properly, so I asked to stay an extra night, I wanted the help while it was on hand, but I’m sure Kate had as much help at home as she did in the hospital. #kcacols
For me a woman is in shock after birth however well it went. It is huge physical and emotional challenge and for me therefore a week is about right so she can have good help in hospital, sleep a lot and eat great food ideally. #TwinklyTuesday
But is a hospital the best place for that? For me (and loads of women at the playgroup I ran) it would have been a week in a place most of us associate with illness, without home comforts and to some extent regimented as it’s a large organisation. Being allowed to go home is something many birth campaigners fought for. What there should be is more HV and MW support for physically healthy women at home.
I really felt for them … The expectation that they would show up at the front of the hospital within hours to show them the baby and look like a proper Royal … Because imagine the reaction if she’d rocked up in a trackie bottom and t-shirt like most of us … Good grief!
It’s interesting as my pro-bonding-hippy crowd a few years ago was advocating leaving as soon as possible – as ‘at home’ is quieter for bonding. Lots of horror about how hospitals are nasty, noisy, cold, germy places. I guess you can’t please the keyboard warriors. Had she stayed in they’d ask why she had not bonded at home.
I had 5 days in with both but then I had `c sections with both so itβs slightly different.
I think every woman is different so every birth experience will be different. Kate came out quickly, yes but maybe it was so that she could change into her comfy PJs and slippers in the car, get home and get her mum round to offer her some help! I expect the palace is more comfy than every the nicest hospital. #bloggersbest
I had a c-section with both my girls and was kept in a couple of days. Given the chance I would have been home as soon as I could walk again. lol #bloggersbest
Loved reading everyone else’s experience’s, I’d be interested to know how long it would be for me to be discharged after a 3rd! Thanks for linking up lovely and featuring me! #BloggersBests
I stayed in for a couple of nights after a difficult birth and a big paperwork delay, but would have loved to have gone home sooner, particularly when my husband had to leave for the night and I’d be feeling like I had no ide how to handle a baby all by myself! #CoolMumClub
I think everyone is different but we stayed in for a couple of nights because my daughter was treated for jaundice and honestly I actually was really appreciative of it as I felt somewhat cocooned in those two days rather than just being spat back out into reality with a new baby without a clue about how to be a mother! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub 100 so interesting to hear everyone’s experiences xox
I gave birth to my son at 9.30pm and we were back in the car at 2.20am that night going home. I was a bit gutted as I was hoping to catch a few hours sleep in the hospital! But no, by the time we got home and to bed I think I got about an hours sleep before my daughter toddled in about 5am saying “ooo new baby”. That’ll be time to get up then! We were fine though and to be honest I think I’d prefer to be at home as long as we were both ok. #coolmumclub
Mine was slightly different because of my emergency section and the complications. I was in for a week all told and I’m really glad. Yes, I wanted to go home but I also had midwives’ advice and guidance on tap (not to mention milking the NHS for newborn nappies!) #kcacols
I think everyone is difference and depends on the set of circumstances X #coolmumclub
With both of mine I stayed over night and was then home. With hindsight, it would have been more beneficial to me to have stayed longer, especially with my first as I was so poorly and readmitted within 10 days. The problem is, they need the beds so its almost like a conveyor belt. Thanks for linking up with #twinklytuesday, hope you can link up this week xx
With my first I stayed in for about 26hours after he was born, it felt like forever and I hated spending that first night as a new Mum in hospital and not at home with my husband to help. With my second I was there for a grand total of about 4 hours! We arrived at 6am, he was born just before 7 and we were buying food for breakfast in co op at 9.30! We didnt even go to the post natal ward, was literally just push him out, quick shower and go! I donβt blame Kate for wanting to get home so soon, nothing beats your own bed xx #coolmumclub
I left the hospital with my first around 24 hours later. My second was sooner. My third was around lunch time the day after I gave birth.
Nothing beats your own home, your own comfort and BED too! I struggled to rest in hospital with my third, it was so uncomfortable and hot too.
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